Shame can silently destroy a relationship. When we are covered in shame in a relationship, we have difficulty in being vulnerable and opening up to the partner.
While initially it may not be a prominent problem, shame can affect the relationship negatively in the later stages. ” If we are not careful, Shame can silently erode the foundation of our relationship, but there’s hope.
Here’s an action plan to reclaim the love and trust,” wrote Therapist Benjamin Ekorhi. Here are a few ways by which we can replace shame with vulnerability and create a safe space.
Vulnerability is the perfect anecdote to shame. While shame believes in covering it in harsh criticism and unhealthy behavior, vulnerability focuses on being intimate and opening up for a stringer connection.
Vulnerability is all about letting the guard down and helping the partner see our true self. Only then can we have more confidence in the partner and the relationship.
Actively listening, empathising and supporting each other through the good and the bad times help in creating a healthy space for honest communication – this is one of the foundation blocks of a safe relationship.