Dear Men, Here’s What Indian Women Want: Five Sex Tips to Make Her Feel Amazing in Bed
Sex may permeate our popular culture, but conversations about it are still associated with stigma and shame in Indian households. As a result, most individuals dealing with sexual health issues or trying to find information about sex often resort to unverified online sources or follow the unscientific advice of their friends.
To address the widespread misinformation about sex, is running this weekly sex column, titled ‘Let’s Talk Sex’, every Friday. We hope to initiate conversations about sex through this column and address sexual health issues with scientific insight and nuance.
The column is being written by Sexologist Prof (Dr) Saransh Jain. In today’s column, Dr Jain has taken up the eternal question that every man wants an answer to: What do women what in bed?
The rules of patriarchy apply to everything, even your sex life. If you are a woman who has always put the pleasure and needs of her partner before her own satisfaction, then you know what I mean. In India, female desires are seldom validated, not just in workspaces or society but also in bedrooms.
However, what men don’t realise is that when women can equally enjoy sex and get maximum pleasure out of it, they are more willing to return the favour. Therefore, if you want a rocking sex life, your first step would be to find out what your woman wants.
Validating Woman’s Desire: One thing that never leads to good sex is being selfish. Therefore, as much as your pleasure is important, so is hers. Have an open and honest conversation about what she wants. Ask her what she likes in bed, what kind of fantasies she has, and also what puts her off.
Are there things or actions or positions that put her in the mood or get her excited? Sex without intimacy can never lead to pleasure, so make time, and make an effort to know your partner intimately.
More importantly, be a gentleman in bed too. Just because you have orgasmed doesn’t need to mean that it has to end; a crucial part of acknowledging female desire is to give her sexual satisfaction. Fortunately for men, there are various kinds of sexual orgasms for females, and women can sometimes even have different types of orgasms together.
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